來源How to Handle Unruly Children
譯者Jean290
How to Handle Unruly Children
如何教育任性的孩子
By an eHow Contributor
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Handle Unruly ChildrenHow to Handle Unruly Children Stubbornness is cute in a toddler but by the time the child reaches school age, unruly behavior is a problem for parents, teachers and others. The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own parenting methods probably allowed our child to become unruly and by altering them, we can help our child behave appropriately.
一個蹣跚學(xué)步的孩子任性是頑劣兒童可愛的表現(xiàn)，但是，如果孩子到了入學(xué)年齡的兒童，任性對家長、老師或其他人而言就是一件棘手的事情。糾正問題的第一步就是承認(rèn)我們自己的養(yǎng)育方法可能使我們的孩子變得粗野，如果改變它們，我們可以幫助我們的孩子行為舉止得體。
Instructions.
具體方法
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Set clear boundaries and stick to them. Your child needs to know the exact behavior expected of him. Child experts tell us that children actually want boundaries and that once firmly established; most children will respect the rules.
設(shè)定清晰的界限，并且堅持這么做。你的孩子需要知道具體怎么做。兒童專家告訴我們，孩子們真正想要知道明確的界定，一旦規(guī)定嚴(yán)格確立，大多數(shù)孩子會遵守規(guī)則。
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Make very few threats but carry through on those you do make. It's easy to warn a child that he'll go to bed without supper if he doesn't clean his room but when you give in and feed him, you're sending the message that you don't really mean what you say. If you aren't ready to make good on a threat, just don't make it.
少用威脅口吻，但是，要至始至終貫徹你的規(guī)定。如果他沒有打掃自己的房間，你可以很容易地警告孩子沒有吃晚飯就去睡覺，但是當(dāng)你讓步而讓他吃飯時，你就向他發(fā)出了一個信息，你說話不算數(shù)。如果你不準(zhǔn)備威脅他，那你最好不要威脅他。
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Spend time with your child. You don't have to plan activities for every minute of the day, just taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him to do his homework at the kitchen table while you cook creates a feeling of togetherness and may reduce unruly behavior that stems from insecurity.
花時間陪陪孩子。您不比計劃一天中每一分鐘都和孩子在一起，只是當(dāng)你做事的時候，戴上孩子或是你在廚房忙碌的時候，讓他在餐桌上做功課，這樣，你就為你的孩子創(chuàng)造了一個團(tuán)聚的感覺，可以減少由于不安全產(chǎn)生的不好表現(xiàn)。
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Set reasonable punishments that get results. All children are different and one child may respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his allowance reduced. Avoid using chores as a punishment. Children should do chores without pay as part of being in a family.
確定能帶來良好結(jié)果合理的懲罰。所有的孩子是不同的。如果懲罰的有道理，有的孩子可以迅速做出反應(yīng)。而有的孩子可能需要通過減少他的津貼方式來懲罰他。避免用做家務(wù)當(dāng)作一種懲罰。作為家庭成員之一，孩子做家務(wù)是應(yīng)該做的。
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Reward your child's good behavior. Positive reinforcement of carries a strong message to your child. Children who receive praise for good acts try harder to behave.
獎勵孩子的良好行為。正面引導(dǎo)給孩子傳遞積極的信息，因為表現(xiàn)好而得到稱贊的孩子會更加努力。
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Schedule your child's time to help her develop responsibility. Children who misbehave often have too much idle time on their hands. Until your child can behave appropriately by herself, reduce her free time and fill her hours with activities, sports, errands or study work.
安排時間來幫助孩子培養(yǎng)責(zé)任感。表現(xiàn)不好的孩子往往有太多空閑時間。要想讓你的孩子行為舉止適當(dāng)?shù)皿w，你要減少她的空閑時間，幫助她安排活動，進(jìn)行體育活動，做家務(wù)或?qū)W習(xí)。
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Visit your pediatrician if you think your child's unruly behavior stems from a psychological problem. Children with Attention Deficit Disorder and other behavioral conditions may need medication or diet changes to help them function responsibly
如果您認(rèn)為孩子的問題由心理問題產(chǎn)生的，就帶孩子去看兒科醫(yī)生。注意力障礙和其他行為障礙的兒童可能需要藥物治療或通過飲食的改變的方式來幫助他們康復(fù)。
